Maladaptive Daydreaming- Faith
How can faith help in coping with mental disorders? Can looking to your faith and beliefs give you strength and hope or does your disorder cause you to question your faith?
Justification- you want there to be a reason. “why is this happening?” Is God preparing me for something? testing me? Is God punishing me? Like the king who went mad and ate grass like an ox for not honoring God. Is it just bad luck?
“People with mental illness are often socially isolated and even feel isolated from God.”
“(Paradise lost) Milton’s Satan says, “The mind is its own place, and in itself, can make heaven of Hell, and a hell of Heaven.”But Paul actually seems to be thinking of Shakespeare’s Hamlet, who says, “There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.”
People tell you:
- you just need more faith.
God will heal you if you believe strongly enough-claim your healing based on His promise and He has to heal you.
- you must have sin in your life.
you must have done something to cause this to happen.
- you have a demon.
mental illness is demonic possession. Like king Saul and the boy who was epileptic.
Mental Illness Leads to Spiritual Journey
Faith Can’t Cure Mental Illness
Mental Health Ministries: To Erase the Stigma of Mental Illness
Are your daydreams in modern time? the past? or the future? We’ll be discussing the idea of dreaming in different times. What does it mean to feel you’re in the wrong time? Why is the “now” not as appealing to some of us?
From; Dream Dictionary – Astrology.com
Time travel is a common dream event. There is rarely a time machine involved. Rather, the dream story simply unfolds in another era of time, past or future. These dreams often represent either the romance or hopes we attribute to moments other than our present. You may find that the dream stems from your desire to identify with particular mores of a time period or to influence certain events.
If you spontaneously dream of going backwards in time, it is most likely a dream of romantic wish-fulfillment. The “good old days” seem to conjure images of heroism, nobility, morality, and social life that, while not altogether accurate, draw our admiration. Often there is a facet of your personality that you feel you could more easily tap into as a pioneer, statesman, damsel in distress, or some other stereotypical image of history.
Most times, the time travel is confluent with your particular image of an archetypal dream character. For example, if you are dreaming a warrior/hero archetype, you may personify yourself in the dream as a medieval knight.
From: Dream Moods
To dream about time travel indicates your wish to escape from your present reality. You want to go back into the past or jump forward to the future to a period where your hopes are realized. This dream also represents your romantic tendency and or your desire to romanticize everything.
my DDs are always in other times. Never present day.Almost always in the past, only a few in the future. Funny that most of the DDs about the future are about traveling in time. Like being a researcher who time travels to observe past cultures. So I guess even in the future ones I’m going in the past.
Maladaptive Daydreaming- Relationships
How had MD effected your intimate relationships? Does your significant other know? Can you share your struggles with this disorder with your partner?
youtube clips- relationships and mental illness.
I’ve been married for over 30 years, I’ve seen my friends go in and out of marriages and relationships trying to get connected. They seem to be searching for something, I don’t know. Then I look at myself and think, maybe I would be doing the same if I didn’t have this, for the lack of a better phrase, this paralell life that meets some of my needs, but also hinders my growth. It’s all so complicated, but basically a happy person. I’ve learned self-acceptance, and when I look at people who don’t have MD, their lives, from my view, are not much better than mine.
Hi, I told my husband about six years ago. Well, I only told him a little, and it didn’t go well. He was not sympathetic or understanding of me in most areas. It seemed like he never liked who I am. He left me last year, and it’s probably for the best.
I live with my boyfriend, and some days I lay in bed ’til 2-3pm on my days off just daydreaming so, after finding out about MD, I’ve told him about it and explained a bit. He doesn’t quite understand obviously, as he doesn’t have it – but he says it doesn’t matter as long as I’m okay with it.
I would never ever ever EVER tell someone. I haven’t worked too hard my whole life to be normal to have the facade shatterd because I flapped my mouth. I’ve had nightmares about my family finding out, they end bad.
I’m not sure if my husband suspects. I know he daydreams on occasion out of boredom, and he knows I do, too, but I don’t think he realizes the extent to which I daydream. I’m terrified to tell him.
i’m married, and i think it would be unkind to tell my husband the extent of my daydreaming and the alter world I’ve created.
I don’t think any of my family would accept this, but then I don’t have a close relationship with any of them
definitely not.. and i never ever will.
Im soo embarrassed about it
no my family does not know and I would never tell them, they are not open minded/understanding enough for this. I can’t even tell my therapist about it.
By MARGARITA TARTAKOVSKY, M.S.
Mental illness is tough on couples. “The mental illness has a way of wanting to direct the movement of the relationship, rather than the individual partners,” said Jeffrey Sumber, MA, LCPC, Chicago psychotherapist and relationship coach. But remember that couples have the ultimate control.
“It is not true that a mental illness can destroy a relationship. People destroy a relationship,” Sumber said.
Here’s what you can do to maintain a healthy relationship rather than a relationship overwhelmed and steered by mental illness.
- Know the illness and treatment options.
- Find out how to help. “Learn from a mental health professional what role you might be able to play in the treatment plan,”
- View the diagnosis as another challenge. Challenges can be overcome.
- Work on your marriage as you would without the mental illness intruding. “Honor and care for your marriage as you would without the presence of the mental illness,”
- He recommended carving out time when “you both can fully enjoy one another, at least for a few hours.”
- Maintain positive communication. “In my experience, couples who continue to say ‘I love you,’ or to check in during the day via phone calls or texts, tend to fare much, much better in terms of relationship longevity,” Duffy said.
- Admire each other.
- Check in with each other. Every week, sit together for 15 minutes and talk about your “needs and intentions for the coming week,” Sumber said. Start with “appreciations and affirmations from the preceding week,” he said. Healthy couples “spend a large amount of their focus on appreciating their partners for even the smallest things.” This helps keep couples accountable for their relationship’s wellbeing, he added.
- Practice self-care regularly.
- Be sure to get enough sleep, eat well, participate in physical activity, spend quality time with loved ones and engage in enjoyable activities.
- Don’t expect your partner to meet all your needs.
- Avoid blaming.
- “Ask open-ended questions about the illness, and really listen to the answers,”
- Also, remember that “both people need to be responsible for themselves, their healthy responses to situations rather than unhealthy reactions, and their intentions and picture for the marriage,” he said.
- Seek individual counseling. If you can’t “communicate your feelings in a nonjudgmental or blaming manner,”
- Seek couples counseling. “Counseling provides perspective, balance and guidance in a situation that can easily become imbalanced under the wrong circumstances,”
- Learn from the struggles.
- Remember that every relationship has brief periods of drama, and it’s easy to let these hurtful moments overshadow your entire marriage. “The truth is that if two people love one another and are willing to make things work, they can with good process and impeccable communication,” Sumber said.
Welcome Dreamers, to the Maladaptive Daydreamers discussion. Today we are talking about creative outlets for MD.
Have you been able to focus your daydreams into some creative endeavor? A poem? A Book? A Painting? A Song? Can expressing our DDs creatively help us cope with this disorder?
If you want to join the conversation today the call in number is: 347-215-9415 The chat room is open and you can join in that way also. I finally have an email address for the show, email@example.com so you can contact me that way if you have ideas to share for the show.
MUSIC- Art in me by Jars of Clay
MD in the news.
Does MD make you more creative? I doubt it. It seems to draw from the creativity we have, in many ways depleting it. At least it feels that way to me. Being a visual artist all my life, one big difference I noticed since developing MD is that I stopped all creative endeavors. My DDs aren’t even that visual, I mean I don’t envision whole worlds in great detail. It is more about the character interaction, like a close up shot in a movie. The background is not important, sometimes hard to bring into focus. But this may differ with others.
I’ve tried to sketch out scenes from my DDs. But I can’t seem to focus in on them enough to draw them. Being mainly a portrait artist I draw what I see, my DDs are never in that clear a focus to recreate. I also can’t keep one image in my mind long enough to draw it. It will change. The story will continue, leaving me behind. So I have not been able to draw inspiration from My DDs for art. Have you?
A friend from the MD yahoo group says, “I mean, are we truly creative if we don’t actually create anything? I’ve written a dozen fantastic romance novels in my mind, but if I’ve never written a word, can I call myself creative? I love playing music in my mind, but if I’ve never taken the time to learn an instrument, am I truly creative? I think this is a way that MD fools us. The only thing we’re getting better at is pretending we are creative, when in fact nothing comes of our imaginative projects.” L I think they have a point. I know some people have writing works based on their DDs but for most it seems that MD consumes our creativity instead of enhancing it.
Some comments from the wild minds forum,
“I have sosososo many story lines running in my head and the way I DD is very language oriented as well as visual and sensory. I could be a best selling author by now. If I wrote them all down.
In my head it all sounds perfect. Beautiful and could easily be written down and then turned into a famous novel. But as soon as I start to write it down it sounds stupid, poorly written, and I get this tremendous frustration. I get so angry that I can’t write it down perfectly. I forget almost all of it when I try to write it down…..I lose all the details when I try to write it down. It’s like my daydreams are shy and don’t want a connection to real life haha.” DT