Maladaptive Daydreaming- Dangers of living in a dream

 Does maladaptive daydreaming cause real dangers? Can being lost in your own world put you at risk in this one? Yes, in many ways. It can put you at risk for accidents and crimes. How do we get control of our MD to protect ourselves?

 

Crime
Distracted people can become victims of crime. The most often given advice on not being a victim is “ALWAYS keep warily scanning 360 degrees around you (NO ear-pods, cell phones, or other distractions)” MD sufferers fall into the “other distractions” category. We can easily become lost in our minds while shopping, walking, etc.
Walking
Walking in a dream, we can easily daydream while walking. This is fine out in an open area but in the city, crossing the street, it can be deadly. Falling in a hole, tripping, or getting hit by a car.
Driving
It is easy to daydream while driving, especially on routine trips. You go on autopilot and your mind wanders. Too many thing going on in your head, worrying about the day, upset about a daydream senorio, your body goes through the motions but your mind is not focused on your driving. This happened to me not long ago and I clipped a mailbox. It can happen so fast, we know this but controlling the daydreams is very difficult. Finding a way to stay in the moment and focus on the road is a real challenge.

Articles:
Daydreaming May Contribute to Up to Half of All Crashes
http://www.kcentv.com/story/20347757/daydreaming-may-contribute-to-up-to-half-of-all-crashes
KCEN) — Daydreaming behind the wheel may contribute to up to half of all car accidents.
We’ve all had our minds wander or zone out occasionally while driving, but researchers wanted to see how much inattention affects road safety.
After interviewing nearly a thousand drivers involved in an accident, researchers found 52 percent admitted to some mind wandering just before the crash and 13 percent described intense mind wandering.
Researchers say daydreaming can cause drivers to overlook road hazards and make more mistakes.
So keep your eye on the road and your hand upon the wheel.

Did you know: Daydreaming drivers
ORANGE COUNTY REGISTER
Letting your mind wander while driving not only can get you lost, but it also contributes to a high number of car crashes. A new French study that analyzed nearly 1,000 collisions found that half of accidents could have been caused by a driver’s daydreaming or worries. The study notes that our minds often wander for half of our waking lives, most often while resting or performing repetitive tasks that are not cognitively challenging. The research is published in this month’s British Medical Journal.

The dangers of distracted walking
http://q13fox.com/2012/12/13/the-dangers-of-distracted-walking/
“According to the Times, 4,000 people die every year and 60,000 people are hurt in vehicle/pedestrian accidents nationwide.”

Daydreaming and driving – an unsafe combination?
http://psychologyrich.blogspot.com/2011/04/daydreaming-and-driving-unsafe.html
The conclusion from these observations was that daydreaming while driving does pose a safety risk. The authors of the article suggest that the tendency to look straight ahead while in the middle of a daydream entails a failure to scan or monitor the environment such that a daydreaming driver becomes less aware of the other vehicles around them on the road, which could contribute to increased risk of crashing.

Maladaptive Daydreaming- Social Interactions

Maladaptive Daydreaming- Social Interactions

With holidays and family gatherings, do you find yourself more prone to daydream? Being around people and focused on conversations can leave some people drained and irritable. Introverts, recluses, and chronic dreamers can find social interactions to be dreadful.

Company christmas lunch. Very awkward. Trying to smile, look interested in conversations, all the time a daydream running in my head. Pulling my attention back and forth. It is very unsettling and stressful. I don’t know if there is a way to “enjoy” a holiday gathering. We can “endure” them.

Articles:

Bah, humbug! An introvert’s rules for holiday survival http://www.mercurynews.com/bay-area-living/ci_22180532/bah-humbug-an-introverts-rules-holiday-survival

Party Survival Tactics for Introverts http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-introverts-corner/200911/party-survival-tactics-introverts

Video clips:

warning-bad language but funny Holiday Guide for Introverts. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L37t9jr6j_4

Adding a YouTube channel

I am working on uploading the audio from the radio shows to youtube. So people who may not know about blogtalk might find out about us. The shows have to be broke up into 10 min parts but I am making playlists of each show so people can listen straight through. It is a time consuming process so I’ll get up a few at a time.

http://www.youtube.com/user/greyartistMD

 

Maladaptive Daydreaming- Guiding your Daydreams

Do you control what you daydream about? Can you guide the daydream as you wish? Let’s look at how much control we have. Can we push our dreams in ways to help us better ourselves? Like positive imagery or guided meditation. 

What do you think? Aren’t we in control of our daydreams? I am trying to direct the daydream more then just go with the flow. To see if it will help. They say positive visualization helps you. Like a basketball player visualizing himself making freethrows will increase his percentage. So can we harness our daydreams to make positive changes in ourselves? I am going to try, when I find myself being a weak, helpless ball of mush in my daydream, I am going to try to consciously  make myself more confident, assertive, powerful. Stop being the victim. Will it work? I don’t know.

I have found that trying to control a daydream is very tiring. And you get to a point where you just give up and let it go. The first time I tried, was not long after the MD started. I was so upset that the daydreams always contained this man, no one I knew or had ever seen. Completely made up by my subconscious. I wanted to get control back. So I tried to make a different character, different hair color, different build, I named him. And tried to force him into the dream. Well, long story made short, I was successful in dumping the first daydream guy for the new one only to have the new one die in an air raid and first guy show up to pull me away from him to the shelter. I yelled outload at the outrage of my subconscious killing off my new guy to perserve it’s creation. OK, that’s when I went to the psychiatrist. I thought I must be delusional. Well they say I’m not. But That’s when I knew how powerful MD can be. I don’t even control my own mind. P.S. new guy has starred in most of the DDs since then. So it would seem I created a monster, that then took over.

But, not one to give up, I am still trying to get some control. I think if we can control them, we can also stop them. Maybe.

Notes from articles:

http://www.world-of-lucid-dreaming.com/types-of-dreams.html

Daydreams

Scientific studies reveal that most people daydream for a whopping 70-120 minutes per day. During this time, you are only semi-awake – not asleep, but not fully checked-in with reality, either. It starts with a compelling thought, memory, or fantasy about the future, and your imagination runs away. The longer you daydream, the deeper you becomes immersed in your private fantasy land.

Contrary to popular belief, daydreaming is an important part of dream research. As with all types of dreams, you enter a kind of hypnotic trance and allow your subconscious thoughts to rise to the surface.

In daydreams, the right (creative) brain is dominant and you lose awareness of reality. Deeper worries or concerns will surface, usually by acting themselves out in the daydream. This only serves to reinforce negativity – so next time you are fantasizing about bad situations, turn it around and consciously create a positive outcome.

http://www.luciddaydreaming.com/

Lucid daydreaming technique (LDD) outline:
By daytime, notice a daydream (a vivid, spontaneous mind-wandering) while you are still in the actual daydream. Then, continue the daydream by responding IN the daydream scene that you have just become lucid (i.e. “This is a daydream!”, “I am daydreaming now”, etc.). Act out any desired lucid behavior in the daydream (by visualization), any activity that you like to engage in for tonight’s probable lucid dreams. Continue this lucid daydream until your desired activity is completed. Then stop the daydream. LDD shows also to be effective when applying WBTB: during the brief interruption of sleep, do as much LDD as you can before returning to sleep.

http://ld4all.com/forum/viewtopic.php?t=36064

Introduction:I’ve been trying to practice lucid living on and off for the past few years (mostly off), but recently have really been throwing myself into it and finding it gets easier with practice and determination. Whenever I tried to be lucid and realized I was daydreaming, I would pull out of the daydream as I became aware of the things around me and how lucid I was in my waking body.

Back when I was LDing frequently, I would have a problem where soon after I became lucid I would become aware of my real physical body and get pulled out of my dream.

It is only now, after three years, that I’ve realized these two things are related!

The Technique:
As you go through your day and find yourself daydreaming, become lucid in the daydream. Feel the dreamlike realness, however much there is, of the daydream. Put your awareness in your daydream self and not your waking self.

If you have to stop daydreaming because you’re supposed to be doing something in waking life, don’t immediately withdraw like you usually would. First acknowledge the daydream lucidly, and then decide to wake up from it. But try to sometimes indulge, or even start daydreaming on purpose!

Doesn’t it seem obvious that Lucid DayDreaming would be good practice for LDing? so everyone go out and LDD!

Do We Control Our Daydreams? « Your Brain and You
http://yourbrainandyou.com/2010/09/20/do-we-control-our-daydreams/

not that I agree with everything said in this video, but it is interesting.

Day Dreams and Night Dreams Are the Same – YouTube
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VGmuzZnmVpM

Maladaptive Daydreaming- Creative Writing

Turning daydreams into stories and poems. Can we harness some of the creative images and story lines into written works? We have an interview with a MD sufferer who writes fiction.

Do you daydream complete stories? beginning to end, or a mixed bag of scenes and clips. Many say their daydreams would make great books but they can’t seem to stop daydreaming long enough to get it written down.

Guest intro:

Our guest just recently discovered MD. Being able to put a name to the thinking pattern that has been his reality for years is somewhat comforting. But he is not ready to come out publically about it yet. So he has chosen to remain anonymous. We will call him Sonny. Sonny is a young writer who has completed his first book. This is my first interview so please excuse the unprofessionalism. So, here we go.

Questions for our guest;

  • Was your book based on a daydream?
  • Did daydreaming help you in writing your book?
  • Is the main character based on your daydream self?
  • Did you have trouble focusing or getting the story on paper due to your MD?
  • Did your daydreams change after the book was finished?

Dopamine System in Highly Creative People Similar to That Seen in Schizophrenics, Study Finds

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2010/05/100518064610.htm

How to Cultivate Daydreams

http://www.helpingwritersbecomeauthors.com/2010/10/how-to-cultivate-daydreams.html

Daydream or Die!

http://www.helpingwritersbecomeauthors.com/2010/04/daydream-or-die.html

A rant

“Its hard for one to admit that the problems is just something they can control. If it’s a disorder of the brain than it lets us off the hook, right? Its my brain not me. However if it’s an addiction or coping mechanism then only we can fix it not the magic pill.”

MY RESPONSE:

And IF it is not an addiction or coping mechanism then all the self control and trying in the world won’t change a thing. No more then a schizophrenic can choose not to be. I know we all have different stories and it maybe different for each of us. But I didn’t become addicted to something I never had a habit of doing, and I had nothing I needed to escape or cope with. I had a happy normal life and relationships before MD started. The idea of this being something I can just stop is very depressing to me because I have tried so hard, only to finally give in, drained from the effort of trying to stay in reality. I don’t get a high from it, just more discouraged and tired.

Sorry for the rant but this post really upset me. I see people who join the forums and start in on how wonderful it is to daydream so much and want to talk about their fantasies. Well that’s all well and good for you. But why are you here? on a forum for people looking for help with a problem of out of control daydreaming. What they can’t control. MALADAPTIVE by definition means it negatively affects your life.  If you love it, why not start a “we love daydreaming” forum. Sorry, that was uncalled for. It is just that I wish I had the control over it they have. But I don’t. That is why I do this blog, do the research, the radio show. I want answers, I want help. I want it to stop.